The
Art & Science
of Rejection
Clint helps people learn…
how to use rejection to get the best out of life.
As a researcher, writer, and educator, Clint helps people learn how to welcome helpful resistance, rejection, and reframing to move beyond situations and things to ultimately get the best out of anything.
Serving People
Like you and…
Execuatives
Rejecting the right way is the difference between success and failure!
Salesmen
Getting beyond rejection the right way makes or breaks the deal.
Managers
Similar to executives, rejection can make teams terrible or terrific.
Parents
Setting healthy boundaries for children leads to happier lives.
Young Adults
Rejection during brain developing years is paramount for future success.
Influencers
We have to say no to good and better deals in order to get the best.
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Some Of Our Recent Blogs
What is Rejection Good For
What do you really want? You can't have it. Ever. It's going to be difficult to write a blog about rejection because most people have an...
The Art & Science of Rejection – Introduction
The Art & Science of Rejection is a resource for people to learn and experiment with rejection. There is an art to experience both rejecting...
FAQ's on Rejection
Why is rejection so painful?
Rejection is a painful experience due to the way our brains process the experience. If you were to take two scans of a brain side by side, one shows the neural pathways the light up during physical pain, and the other shows the neural pathways that light up during an episode of rejection, they would like nearly identical. To the brain, physical pain and rejection are pretty much the same things. That is why rejection can be experienced like physical pain.
How can I reject someone without hurting them?
Except in rare situations, rejection will hurt to some degree. A person who is in the position of rejecting another person can limit the painful emotional or psychological effects of rejection first by recognizing that rejection hurts. Being sensitive to this fact opens up the door for empathy. Using empathy, a person can imagine possible ways to present the rejection in a way that is appropriate to the situation, place, and most importantly the person. Since every situation and person varies, empathy is a key tool for minimizing the pain experienced by the person who is getting rejected.
Note: Empathy makes it so we experience to some degree the pain that others experience. When we imagine how someone might feel if we reject them, we likely experience a negative emotion in assassination with the imagined scenario. In the actual scenario or rejection, we often empathize and experience the pain of rejection that is actually being processed by the rejected person. In this sense, rejecting others may cause the person who is dealing the rejection to feel discomfort for longer than the person who gets rejected.