Transitioning from home school to public school at the age of 13, Clint began learning about rejection through reflection. His applied study of developing people skills become an intentional process that evolved into an acute understanding of human interaction and the role of rejection in everyday life.
To help free the world from suffering by overcoming the natural consequences of rejection.
To study, write, and enlighten the world with honest, accessible knowledge.
How It Works
Take time to reflect on moments of rejection and suffering with the intention of increasing self-knowledge.
Search academic and philosophical works on the topics and keywords that come up during the reflection stage.
Combine the reflection and research into applicable methods and concepts. Test, revise, and retest the methods and concepts.
Write and post about the applied knowledge through blogs, books, and social media platforms, making all knowledge easily accessible.
Rejection still hurts
How Clint Can Help You
There is a reason people like you come here for help. Some people are searching for a quick solution, a catchy phrase, or a profane pronouncement. That is not what Clint is about. Life is a process. Overcoming the natural consequences of rejection is a process. People come and find value here because Clint takes a methodical approach that is accessible to anyone who needs help. A few words will likely come short of the value of complete articles, and books, but here is are a few to get you started:
Rejection will always hurt. But it doesn’t have to kill us.
The best things in life are always on the other side of rejection.
There are two sides of rejection: Giving and Receiving.
Overcoming rejection includes the practice of curiosity, mindfulness, and purpose.
Some Questions that frequently asked
Can I become inoculated to the effects of rejection?
Some people like to think there is a way to be numb to the effects of rejection. That is not true. People can become more clear-minded about how they are affected by rejection, but the body and mind still process rejection, much the same way they process physical pain. Like pain, we can shift our mental focus on other things and that helps, but the brain will still make you aware of the physical discomfort. So with rejection, a part of us will always have a negative mental and physiological reaction to rejection. Awareness of how a person personally experiences rejection is a first step of better dealing with it.
Why does the brain make rejection feel like physical pain?
The brain is evolved to protect us. The nervous system is acutely evolved to transmit signals to the brain when it is experiencing anything outside of what is comfortable. The brain processes those signals in such a way that triggers the quickest response to resolve the discomfort. We are a social species. For millennia, we’ve depended on tribal collaboration in order to survive and thrive. Rejection is one of the most effective methods for eliminating undesirable and possibly tribal destructive behaviors. Over time, we assume, the brain evolved to process rejection in the most effective way that results in the quickest resolution possible. That mental process is physical pain. Resolving rejection and maintaining acceptance in the tribe was the difference between survival and death; similar to avoiding physical pain.
Why is rejection the foundation to all suffering?
One of the oldest proclamations and resolutions to suffering is ascribed to Guatama, the Buddha. He wisely identified Dukkha, or pain, suffering, and sorrow, as a natural phenomenon of existence. Clint’s take on rejection is that all suffering, sorrow, and pain are the natural consequences of rejection. Suffering is the rejection of comfort. Sorrow is the rejection of joy. Pain is the rejection of safety. Fear is the rejection of security. Whenever a person is experiencing an undesirable state of being, they are experiencing the natural, negative effects of rejection. In this sense, rejection is the foundation of suffering, sorrow, and pain.